Your hobbies, goals, career, friends and family all hold a very important place in your life, so enjoy them! Create activities, hang out with friends and focus on absolutely crushing an upcoming project at work.
Walking away while still in love free#
You don’t have to be free every time he calls, texts, wants to hang out, needs you to pick up his dog from the vet, pops by, etc. Make REAL space by doing your own thing, hanging with friends and giving thought to the type of relationship you would like to have, whether it's with him, or not. The good news? You get to enjoy the same space you’ve offered him. Give him that space don’t pepper him with questions and ultimatums with the hope that he will simply bend to what you’ve decided a relationship means. This is not a bad thing! If anything, he’s just being cautious or needs some space to see what’s next for him in this union. If he can’t give you a direct answer, his distance may be directly related to you and doubts he’s having about you two getting close. Is it all work stress? Suggest a fun date night, or weekend away to get his mind off things. Ask what’s going on, or why he’s been distant and listen to the answer, taking real cues from what he says. For example, if the man you’ve been dating for a few months suddenly falls off the face of the earth, be upfront with him. Take it at face value and make moves from your heart. Don’t twist it into anything more, for better or worse. Except for extreme, egotistical players, a man generally means what he says. His reasons don’t matter at this point you owe it to yourself to listen and move on. If he’s asking you to leave, directly, or indirectly your choice is always easy: leave! Sometimes it is that simple and a man clearly breaks things off with you. The truth is, you have no idea what’s in store for your future if you keep hanging on to the past, or worse, a mediocre present. It also blocks the real love of your life from showing up.
All of this indecisive behavior only limits the love and appreciation you must have for yourself, before anyone will have that love for you. The tough part is that there is no way of knowing which will happen until you take the risk and LEAVE. The other best-case scenario is that he does come crawling back, but by that time, you don’t want him anymore and you get to happily skip away and get ready for your next fabulous outing with friends, or your new beau. NEWSFLASH: Losing him may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, or in the very least, if you two find you cannot live without each other, he will come crawling back with more respect, devotion and perspective than ever before. I’m speaking to the woman who stays overly committed to the idea of someone totally wrong for her, or worse, to someone who has burned her countless times, all out of fear of losing that person.
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